Peer Conflict? Mean Behavior? Or Bullying? What are the differences?
September 28, 2018
What is bullying?
Bullying has four key features, and all must be present to be considered bullying:
- Deliberate (on purpose)
- Repeated (more than once)
- Power imbalanced (unequal power)
- Aims to harm/hurt another
There are four types of bullying:
- Verbal (words): yelling, taunting, insulting
- Physical (actions): pushing, hitting, kicking
- Relational (friendships): excluding, spreading rumors, turning friends against you
- Cyber (social media): sending hurtful messages or images by Internet or cell phone
Also, multiple people can be involved in the situation:
- Victim (individual who receives the bullying)
- Bully (individual doing the bullying)
- Bystander(s) (individual(s) watching the bullying occur)
Article: 'Teaseproof' Your Kids
Peer Conflict | Mean Behavior |
Bullying Behavior |
Conflict between peers is a natural part of growing up. Children will have times when they disagree and can't solve their own problems. They may even become so upset that they say or do mean things. | Children may act impulsively or assert themselves by saying mean things or doing unkind things. This could include making fun of others, using a hurtful name, acting in a physically aggressive way, taking something without permission, or leaving a child out. |
Bullying is serious behavior that has four key features. All must be present for the situation to be considered bullying:
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If it's a peer conflict, you will be aware that these children:
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If it is mean behavior, usually:
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If it is bullying, you will see:
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Adults can respond by:
If this persists, your next step is to talk with your child's classroom teacher or school guidance counselor. |
Adults can respond by:
If this persists, your next step is to talk with your child's classroom teacher or school guidance counselor. |
Adults can respond by:
If this persists, your next step is to talk with your child's principal. |
Parent Resources:
Eyes on Bullying website and Toolkit